How to write a memorable speech
It's your very special occasion; your wedding or the marriage of a family member that is dear to you. You want to communicate what's in your heart to your family and friends. You want your wor ds to be well chosen to convey the spirit of this event to be remembered and you want to present them effectively but even thinking of speaking before a large group is turning your knees to jelly. Lots of people are just plain scared of speaking in public. Yet the words you speak at a wedding last much longer than the flowers, food or the table decorations. Your listeners recording the main event of the wedding will hear your speech over and over again many times.
I know that every one can learn to speak effectively and without fear but to do so requires preparation, revision, pra c tice and relaxation.

How do you prepare a speech
There are several ways to start and to get started with your speech. If you have a wedding speech to prepare these are the thing s you need to keep in mind.
Put in everything you can think of for the first draft and then cut it down.
Five minutes is plenty for a wedding speech and three minutes will do very nicely.
Welcoming your guest s is the first on your speech writing list.
Find out who's coming and who should be mentioned in the speech.
Are there specific people to welcome and thank - family members / friends, those especially dear to your heart and people coming in from out of town ? There may be sensitive situations, so be very cautions here because you don't want to offend anyone.
It's better to make a general welcome than to leave out anyone.
Stick in quotes that suit the occasion, it can be something you read in a great book, saw in a movie or read in a newspaper . I t can be a joke, it helps you get over the nervousness to use someone else words in the beginning and if you get a laugh you'll relax along with everyone else.
Write down the important things you want to say.
Be true to what is in your heart don't be afraid of being mushy.
The wedding speech is your opportunity to tell the people you care about, why they are important to you and why you love them.
Think of something funny that happened in connection with the wedding, how the bridal couple met, think of the funny incidents related to the wedding party.
Write down humorous things you can think of, but only select a couple of them.
Think of something tender and meaningful that happened to you in connection to your wedding.
Tender things are harder to write than funny things.
Mention future plans and goals. It's a nice way to write down a vision of the future that will be shared.
Always leave them laughing at the end with a joke or a humorous quote you've read somewhere.
Propose a toast to the bride and groom depending on who is speaking or to the good health of the entire family.
Invite everyone to enjoy themselves.

Now that you have got it all together, go over what you have written several times and change things around where necessary. This is called revision and it means cutting out what you don't need or anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. Fix your grammar; make sure you haven't said the same thing two or three times over and most of all make it sound like you. If you've never used fancy words, don't use them now. If you love romance, then be romantic. If you are a joker at heart, be funny but remember that it is a special moment, so keep your smile simple , short and sincere.

Now the speech is prepared and revised but you ca n't keep your hands from shaking. Pra c tice until you know it by heart. Look into the mirror and admire yourself as an actor while you say what's in your heart. When you are pleased with yourself, put the paper down and improvise.
Say the speech into the mirror without looking at the paper and without trying to remember the actual words. Just say what's in your heart. Breathing exercises for relaxation are a great to help you with public speaking.

Wedding toast
A toast to the bride.
It is always a pleasure to propose a toast to the bride. It is considered to be a very special and delicate moment. It does not consist only in raising the glass and toasting but also in saying some words about the good qualities and the good times spent together without forgetting to wish the bride all the very best in her life.

The reply to the toast.
For his reply , the groom has to praise the toastmaster and then thank the guests. Then by raising the glass , reply with a few words of thanks to family and friends.